我喜爱张小娴的散文.
感谢郑先生(在星期六时)借我的散文集<<收不起的思念>>.
特别喜爱以下这篇散文:
一个爱你的男人 - 张小娴
要知道一个男人爱不爱你，那还不容易吗?
爱你的那个人会给你尊严。
什么样的尊严?他让你觉得自己高贵。
他让你觉得你在他的世界里是最重要的。
你的地位不会排在他的事业之后。
他不会要你每天等他的电话,
却从来不说什么时候会打来，也不说会不会打来。
约会之后，他不会放心你独个儿回家。
不管已经多晚，也不管你往得多远，他会陪你走那段回去的路。
他不会让你总是孤怜怜地等他回家。
他不会认为你的工作比不上他的工作重要。
他肯定你的工作能力，支持你为梦想奋斗。
他不介意常常要等你下班等到很晚。
他不会要你为他放弃工作。
他不可以忍受他的朋友批评你和对你不好。
他会跟这些朋友绝交。
他不会在你面前盯着另一个女人看，
也不会对着你不停称赞另一个女人的美貌和智慧。
上床之后，他不会要你出去买点东西回来给他吃。
上床之后，他不会赶忙穿上裤子回家去。
他让你相信，你是他今生最幸福的际遇。
他把悲伤留给自己，把痴心留给你。
PS: 也感谢神秘人帮我输入这些华文词语.
因为他知道我输入华文词语速度超慢.
他又再次让我感动.
16 September 2008
8 September 2008
Courage To Love
Thought of writing about "Courage to Love" in Chinese.
But the Chinese software is really giving me issues.
Hopefully I'm able to translate my thoughts into English accurately...
Recently went to meet up with various friends.
Through conversations, I've discovered that we've all somehow changed.
In one way or another.
In the past, our attitudes and mentality towards love were somewhat different.
We might be afraid then. But not as afraid as now.
Perhaps it's our mentality on refusal to lose.
Perhaps we've subconsciously regarded that a failure in love means failure in life.
Perhaps we feel we're no longer young.
Somehow we've forgotten the simple joys we experience when we fall in love.
Is it because we have matured over the time?
Or is it because we think and rationalise too much that we've become more complex?
Love requires courage.
Because somehow someone needs to make the first step.
And time awaits for no man.
Even if failure awaits, at least there's no regrets in years to come.
In my view, the worst in life about love is not the rejection or failure faced.
Because there's confirmation and closure in the relationship.
The worst is that two persons love each other and yet still fail to come together due to a lack of courage.
Because regrets will await when the truth prevails.
Wish all my friends success in love.
I've always liked this song. Love to sing this in KTV:
勇气 By 梁静茹
终于作了这个决定 别人怎么说我不理
只要你也一样的肯定 我愿意天涯海角都随你去
我知道一切不容易 我的心一直温习说服自己
最怕你忽然说要放弃 爱真的需要勇气 来面对流言蜚语
只要你一个眼神肯定 我的爱就有意义
我们都需要勇气 去相信会在一起
人潮拥挤我能感觉你 放在我手心里 你的真心
如果我的坚强任性 会不小心伤害了你
你能不能温柔提醒 我虽然心太急 更害怕错过你
But the Chinese software is really giving me issues.
Hopefully I'm able to translate my thoughts into English accurately...
Recently went to meet up with various friends.
Through conversations, I've discovered that we've all somehow changed.
In one way or another.
In the past, our attitudes and mentality towards love were somewhat different.
We might be afraid then. But not as afraid as now.
Perhaps it's our mentality on refusal to lose.
Perhaps we've subconsciously regarded that a failure in love means failure in life.
Perhaps we feel we're no longer young.
Somehow we've forgotten the simple joys we experience when we fall in love.
Is it because we have matured over the time?
Or is it because we think and rationalise too much that we've become more complex?
Love requires courage.
Because somehow someone needs to make the first step.
And time awaits for no man.
Even if failure awaits, at least there's no regrets in years to come.
In my view, the worst in life about love is not the rejection or failure faced.
Because there's confirmation and closure in the relationship.
The worst is that two persons love each other and yet still fail to come together due to a lack of courage.
Because regrets will await when the truth prevails.
Wish all my friends success in love.
I've always liked this song. Love to sing this in KTV:
勇气 By 梁静茹
终于作了这个决定 别人怎么说我不理
只要你也一样的肯定 我愿意天涯海角都随你去
我知道一切不容易 我的心一直温习说服自己
最怕你忽然说要放弃 爱真的需要勇气 来面对流言蜚语
只要你一个眼神肯定 我的爱就有意义
我们都需要勇气 去相信会在一起
人潮拥挤我能感觉你 放在我手心里 你的真心
如果我的坚强任性 会不小心伤害了你
你能不能温柔提醒 我虽然心太急 更害怕错过你
1 September 2008
Chinatown
Sunday, 1 Sept 08
Went photo-taking at Chinatown with 神秘人.
Went photo-taking at Chinatown with 神秘人.
I mostly took black-and-white photos this round since I've to submit black-and-white photos for my assignment (as my black-and-white photography course is ending). Results of photos will only be seen in hard copies after I've finished developing them.
Nevertheless, I still took some digital photos with my Canon IXUS 85 IS since I can't resist taking colour photos! haha... anyway I think I will take more if I've brought along my Nikon baby (DSLR). But I don't like my bag to be too heavy. So I only brought along my sleek normal digital automatic camera...
Anyway few photos to share with all:
24 August 2008
下雨天
不知为何,下雨天总是让我感到有点伤感.
或许是我因为我喜爱阳光,怕冷的关系吧.
我不喜爱在雨中撑伞.
即使是与情人在雨中漫步.
因为我注重健康多过于浪漫.
担心他是否为会因此而着凉生病.
在雨天,我会僮憬自己像电视剧的情结一般,
坐在咖啡厅与情人一起喝着热咖啡.
望出那朦胧的窗外,看着人群撑伞的点滴.
因为他的双手像热咖啡一般会带给我温暖.
在雨天独自一人时,我喜爱窝在床上阅读小说.
特别喜爱张小娴的散文.
因为她用简短的散文表达了现今都市男女的爱情心态.
因为我在她的散文里感受到她即使看透了很多事,
她还是选择相信爱情及承诺.
让我与你分享她的一些感触吧:
(散文: 一直都等你)
女人最伟大的行为, 莫过於为一个男人蹉跎岁月.
男人最放心不下的, 是有一个女人一直在等他.
(散文: 男人在早餐说的话)
是女人的爱情令女人忠心, 却不是男人的爱情令男人忠心.
令男人忠心的,不是爱, 而是义.
(散文: 困着我)
爱是在我浪蕩之后, 最想回去的地方.
爱是在我自由自在的时侯, 心里最牵掛的人.
爱是他放手, 他纵容, 我却不肯远走天涯, 甘愿受困.
或许是我因为我喜爱阳光,怕冷的关系吧.
我不喜爱在雨中撑伞.
即使是与情人在雨中漫步.
因为我注重健康多过于浪漫.
担心他是否为会因此而着凉生病.
在雨天,我会僮憬自己像电视剧的情结一般,
坐在咖啡厅与情人一起喝着热咖啡.
望出那朦胧的窗外,看着人群撑伞的点滴.
因为他的双手像热咖啡一般会带给我温暖.
在雨天独自一人时,我喜爱窝在床上阅读小说.
特别喜爱张小娴的散文.
因为她用简短的散文表达了现今都市男女的爱情心态.
因为我在她的散文里感受到她即使看透了很多事,
她还是选择相信爱情及承诺.
让我与你分享她的一些感触吧:
(散文: 一直都等你)
女人最伟大的行为, 莫过於为一个男人蹉跎岁月.
男人最放心不下的, 是有一个女人一直在等他.
(散文: 男人在早餐说的话)
是女人的爱情令女人忠心, 却不是男人的爱情令男人忠心.
令男人忠心的,不是爱, 而是义.
(散文: 困着我)
爱是在我浪蕩之后, 最想回去的地方.
爱是在我自由自在的时侯, 心里最牵掛的人.
爱是他放手, 他纵容, 我却不肯远走天涯, 甘愿受困.
Writing my Blog in Chinese
Well well.. my blog is usually written in English instead of Chinese since I do not have the software to write in Chinese. It's very time consuming and tiring when you have to write in Chinese by using the hanyu pinyin dictionary.
Now don't laugh at me when you realise how I wrote those Chinese characters in the past... haha but anyway thanks to 神秘人, I realise that there is this website that could help me write Chinese at an efficient speed!
http://www.nciku.com
So most likely when my mood strikes, I'll write my blog in Chinese!
Well that's because at certain times, emotions could be more clearly described when written in chinese.
So my dear friends with good command of chinese, pls tolerate my standard of chinese k?
Especially my dear friends 贝儿 and Cool-san. Now I've to add 神秘人 in the list too after this morning. haha...
Cheers!
Now don't laugh at me when you realise how I wrote those Chinese characters in the past... haha but anyway thanks to 神秘人, I realise that there is this website that could help me write Chinese at an efficient speed!
http://www.nciku.com
So most likely when my mood strikes, I'll write my blog in Chinese!
Well that's because at certain times, emotions could be more clearly described when written in chinese.
So my dear friends with good command of chinese, pls tolerate my standard of chinese k?
Especially my dear friends 贝儿 and Cool-san. Now I've to add 神秘人 in the list too after this morning. haha...
Cheers!
23 August 2008
Birthday @ Covo Bistro & Lounge
Yesterday was 贝儿's birthday.
I'm very excited and happy that I was able to celebrate her birthday with her, together with Cool-san and 神秘人.
I understand that she adores white roses. Henceforth, I decided with Colin that we will give her white roses on her birthday! For the first time in my life, I actually arrange the white roses into 1 bouquet (during the afternoon before the dinner). Honestly, although I was in Horticulture club during JC, I believe I only arrange flowers in a vase / pot.
Haha but I guess since it's 贝儿's birthday, maybe I should help to do something for her.
It was quite an achievement on my end since I seldom like to do art and craft. Well there're are 2 main reasons: (1) I'm as lazy as Garfield - my favourite (2)I do not have much talent in art. When I was in Sec, I'm only good in abstract art.
And I was happy that she still loved the white roses, in spite of the fact that it was not as nice as those done in the florist. I understand that it's because she has felt the message behind the white roses.
The message that she was special friend to me (as always) and Cool-san.
神秘人 - Thanks for your help too for the last minute touch up.
Anyway we had dinner together at the restaurant, Covo Bistro & Lounge at Bukit Timah district. (Kudos to our dearest driver Cool-san who drove us there) I was glad that 贝儿 liked the restuarant that we've chosen since it was meant as a surprise for her.
The deco of the restaurant was elegant and romantic. And the dinner was also quite nice. A place I would recommend for people looking for a quiet place to talk and dine or chill out.
Herein, just to wish my dear friend a very Happy Birthday once more and that may all her wishes come true! Thanks for being such a true friend to me and I love you very much!
haha... and thanks for extending the invitation to 神秘人 for the dinner too. Hope you had a lovely evening.
I'm very excited and happy that I was able to celebrate her birthday with her, together with Cool-san and 神秘人.
I understand that she adores white roses. Henceforth, I decided with Colin that we will give her white roses on her birthday! For the first time in my life, I actually arrange the white roses into 1 bouquet (during the afternoon before the dinner). Honestly, although I was in Horticulture club during JC, I believe I only arrange flowers in a vase / pot.
Haha but I guess since it's 贝儿's birthday, maybe I should help to do something for her.
It was quite an achievement on my end since I seldom like to do art and craft. Well there're are 2 main reasons: (1) I'm as lazy as Garfield - my favourite (2)I do not have much talent in art. When I was in Sec, I'm only good in abstract art.
And I was happy that she still loved the white roses, in spite of the fact that it was not as nice as those done in the florist. I understand that it's because she has felt the message behind the white roses.
The message that she was special friend to me (as always) and Cool-san.
神秘人 - Thanks for your help too for the last minute touch up.
Anyway we had dinner together at the restaurant, Covo Bistro & Lounge at Bukit Timah district. (Kudos to our dearest driver Cool-san who drove us there) I was glad that 贝儿 liked the restuarant that we've chosen since it was meant as a surprise for her.
The deco of the restaurant was elegant and romantic. And the dinner was also quite nice. A place I would recommend for people looking for a quiet place to talk and dine or chill out.
Herein, just to wish my dear friend a very Happy Birthday once more and that may all her wishes come true! Thanks for being such a true friend to me and I love you very much!
haha... and thanks for extending the invitation to 神秘人 for the dinner too. Hope you had a lovely evening.
21 August 2008
7 Habits of Highly Effective People
I never thought I will enjoy the course.
When I first heard the name of the course, I thought it must be a boring, but maybe useful course? Yes there's positive feedback about the course. But hmm, I'm still rather skeptical about it.
I was surprised when I actually like the course and find it so meaningful. I guess a major reason is because I love the lecturer. She kept the training entertaining by her funny comments and interesting and sad stories she had seen from her counselling experience. A few times, tears welled up at my eyes and I've to control myself very hard not to let them roll down my face when I heard her recite the sad experiences of her patients.
Due to this course, I start to re-think and re-discover about myself. E.g. Who am I? What is the meaning of life? What is the principle I will use to guide my life?
My answer will be courage.
I want to have the courage to overcome all challenges in life.
I want to have the courage to pursue my own happiness.
I want to have the courage to say goodbye to all the unhappy memories in the past and say hi to the happy events entering my life.
Also, I start to re-learn to listen. To know how to listen to friends.
Sometimes what they need is understanding. It might not necessarily be advice.
They need us to look at their problems from their eyes, their perspective.
Because only when we're able to do that, we could truly understand their problems and connect with them. And they will feel they're not alone in the deserts. We might be the oasis that they have been searching all along in the.
Just to share some interesting insights learnt from the course:
(1) The results we GET in life depend on what we DO.
What we DO in life depends on how we SEE the world around us.
(2) When we can no longer change a situation, we're challenged to change ourselves
(3) To my mind, empathy is in itself a healing agent... because it releases, it confirms, it brings even the most frightened person into the human race. If a person is understood, he or she belongs.
(4) Whenever there is a desert, there must be an oasis somewhere
I guess everyone must be thinking, so what are the 7 Habits?
1) Be Proactive (Concentrate on positive behaviour)
2) Begin with the end in mind (Have the goal in mind)
3) Put first things first (Prioritize)
4) Think win-win
5) Seek first to understand then to be understood
6) Synergize (Value the differences and create the synergy with teamwork)
7) Sharpen the saw (Renew self in physical, mental, social and spiritual dimensions)
When I first heard the name of the course, I thought it must be a boring, but maybe useful course? Yes there's positive feedback about the course. But hmm, I'm still rather skeptical about it.
I was surprised when I actually like the course and find it so meaningful. I guess a major reason is because I love the lecturer. She kept the training entertaining by her funny comments and interesting and sad stories she had seen from her counselling experience. A few times, tears welled up at my eyes and I've to control myself very hard not to let them roll down my face when I heard her recite the sad experiences of her patients.
Due to this course, I start to re-think and re-discover about myself. E.g. Who am I? What is the meaning of life? What is the principle I will use to guide my life?
My answer will be courage.
I want to have the courage to overcome all challenges in life.
I want to have the courage to pursue my own happiness.
I want to have the courage to say goodbye to all the unhappy memories in the past and say hi to the happy events entering my life.
Also, I start to re-learn to listen. To know how to listen to friends.
Sometimes what they need is understanding. It might not necessarily be advice.
They need us to look at their problems from their eyes, their perspective.
Because only when we're able to do that, we could truly understand their problems and connect with them. And they will feel they're not alone in the deserts. We might be the oasis that they have been searching all along in the.
Just to share some interesting insights learnt from the course:
(1) The results we GET in life depend on what we DO.
What we DO in life depends on how we SEE the world around us.
(2) When we can no longer change a situation, we're challenged to change ourselves
(3) To my mind, empathy is in itself a healing agent... because it releases, it confirms, it brings even the most frightened person into the human race. If a person is understood, he or she belongs.
(4) Whenever there is a desert, there must be an oasis somewhere
I guess everyone must be thinking, so what are the 7 Habits?
1) Be Proactive (Concentrate on positive behaviour)
2) Begin with the end in mind (Have the goal in mind)
3) Put first things first (Prioritize)
4) Think win-win
5) Seek first to understand then to be understood
6) Synergize (Value the differences and create the synergy with teamwork)
7) Sharpen the saw (Renew self in physical, mental, social and spiritual dimensions)
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